Just a simple question. How do you judge people? Well, if I am not wrong, most people will say that they judge a person from the outside, i.e., the appearance or look. But is it possible to say someone’s nature just by looking at that person’s appearance? No. The fact is, people are shaped up based on their mental habits or mentality. So, your personality depends on your mentality, not the appearance that you are showing to the world. Your appearance is just a way to cover your true image.
With time we all grow. We grow mentally, as well as physically. In the journey of life, we face good times, hard times, troubles, and more. These are part of our lives. But such situations create a psychological effect at a certain point in time. They take us to a new place, fill with darkness, and turn the sweetness of the life in bitterness. You know, you might have a good heart, which is continuously telling you to enjoy life, but the bitterness that you are gradually developing inside you is creating an obstacle. With this, it won’t take much time to become a person and you will be at a stage when everyone will start to hate you.
Are you trying hard to eliminate such factors form inside you? Want to become a person with a positive mind? For this, first, you need to understand the way you think and how your mind is driving you. By altering some of the mental habits, you can easily heal yourself. Just put a little effort, and you can witness the results very soon. Now, let’s know about some common mental habits that are slowly converting you into a bitter person.
You are not forgiving yourself
The most common mental habit that can turn into a bitter person is your habit no forgiving yourself. How can you expect happiness when you are not happy with yourself! Well, there is a common thing that you need to understand. We are humans, and sometimes we commit mistakes. I am not talking about the major mistakes that can really make you guilty. I am talking about the mistakes which we do unknowingly. But remember that no mistakes of yours can define who you are. If you keep feeling shame, guilt, or shame, then this can affect your happiness.
Besides, if you are thinking about some of your past mistakes every day, then you will not be able to move ahead in your life. Accept the situation and deal with them confidently. Don’t let those feelings of guiltiness to get heavy on you. Just try it out now, and you can start feeling a unique sense of relaxation.
Not forgiving others
What is true forgiveness? It is when you make your mind that a person has hurt you badly, but you have forgiven that person, not letting that pain to affect your entire life. But people generally don’t do. I have seen people saying they have forgiven people, but from inside, they keep cultivating the feeling of revenge. Well, this is not good at all.
We all know some mistakes are forgivable. It is not like that what they have done with you is okay. It is about not letting the negativity affecting your happiness. So, try to forgive people for such mistakes. Once you do that, you will feel better as all that bitterness will slowly seeping away from your heart.
Hopelessness, a feeling, when increases can lead to depression. In fact, I have seen people committing suicide due to this. Because it makes them feel that there is nothing left for them, and they are completely useless. So, such feelings can gradually turn into a person struggling to get a few moments of happiness in life. How can you get rid of this?
There is the best way to do that, and it’s very simple. All you need to do is accepting a fact that with bad things, time also brings good things for you. You might have some good things that you have achieved in your life. Consider those things, and you can deal with the feeling of hopelessness. Try it now.
Not showing gratitude
What do you mean by gratitude? In simple words, it is an act of feeling grateful for the things that you have. It is a sign of appreciation that you show when someone does a good thing for you. But this is a thing that is now rare to find. We don’t even care about the people who are taking the risk to let us live happily. Just think, how many times you have expressed your gratitude or thanked the workers who are keeping our city clean even when the whole world is suffering from the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic.
So, go on to start practicing to show gratitude, and you will find yourself really happy from inside. The more you practice it, the better your life will become. Besides, learn to stay thankful for the things that you have, for example, food to eat, clothes to wear and a house to live in. There are people who don’t have these things. Just think about it.
Setting the standard high
Do you know what is your worth in this world? If not, then you don’t have any right to set standards for others. Stop criticizing people for their flaws. In fact, you might have the same flaws, but you have not understood that yet. When you set the standard for others without understanding your flaws, you will witness the feeling of uncomfortableness when you come across those people. You will start to feel insecure, even though they are good people. So, you can avoid such things by understanding your mistakes and flaw. Don’t always try to find out the problems at others; try to see the good things in them.
The habit of drawing a baseless conclusion
You might have heard the word “Overgeneralization.” Do you know what doesn’t that means? It is when you develop a mindset that you have failed at one task, and that’s why you will face failure in all the tasks. Another example is, you have developed a mindset like if one person is bad, then all people are also bad. But friends, this is not true. It is a feeling of toxicity that can gradually turn you into a paranoid person. In the worst scenario, you may encounter with PPD – Paranoid Personality Disorder. You will start to suspect all people, even if there is nothing to be suspicious.
Such mental habits can also lead you to anxiety, depression, and you will develop low self-esteem. So, try to avoid this mental habit. I am not saying that the world is free from danger. But you need to believe that life has some good things to offer you. Keep moving with such a mindset, and nothing can stop you from achieving true happiness.
If you think you have these mental habits, then take your steps now to avoid them. No one, but you can turn yourself into a good person by your own efforts and by practicing good mental habits. Believe in yourself, try to forgive others, show gratitude, and try to understand your flaws. That’s it. Now you are all ready to enjoy a happy and healthy life.