Just think about those persons you always enjoy talking about the most. Why you love to talk to them? Because they make you feel better. They know how to start a conversation and keep it going. You don’t even feel irritated about it.
Those who are good conversationalists, they are also a good listener, and they are very responsive in nature. If you mark carefully, you will find a best and pleasant conversation has a few things, such as questions, factoids, anecdotes, funny stories, and observations. Sometimes, there can be an element of respect as well as sincerity.
Carrying out a good conversation is quite simple. You don’t have to integrate witty banter things to impress others. In fact, you don’t need to obtain any skills to become a good conversationalist. Remember that, when you try to add those elements into your conversations, you kill your conversations. So, to help you in this here, I would like to share a few things with you that can help you in keep conversations going.
Trying To Know Something Through Conversation
Don’t think all people are fools. Remember that they know when you are talking to them to find out something. Besides, pushing an agenda can be the worst thing in any conversation. So, while talking, never ask for anything. If you want something, then wait for it, they can offer you that thing. Well, if you have to know, then prefer to do it later, at the end of the conversation.
Are You Trying To Bullshit?
Well, for some people, this is a skill. Not everyone can bullshit. But be careful about this. Some people know what your limit is, and when you pretend to know more than your actual knowledge, they can know.
They may not tell you that directly, but they know. Remember that faking expertise can make you lose your respect. So, if they are talking about something that you don’t know much about, you can just say, “I am not sure about it,” or you can say, “Can you please tell me more about it.” They will love such behavior from you.
Don’t Always Make It All About You
It’s good to come under the spotlight as everyone will see you. Such feelings can make you feel proud of. But you know what a selfish talker generally does? He/she always tries to make the conversation all about his/her. Besides, they will ask questions that will make others inferior. For example, “Have you ever been to that place?’, “Have you seen the new feature of iPhone X?” They ask this because they have, and they always want a spotlight.
So, while talking, don’t directly jump into by showing your precious knowledge. Sometimes, it is good to let the conversation go on its own way. Let the other party share his/her stories and things they have done. Share the things that come spontaneously to your mind. Don’t plan for it.
The Weapon Of Humbleness
We all feel tempted when it comes to sharing good news or when you achieve something big. We all are good at something, right? We all have done a lot of exciting things. But the problem is that when we get involved much about our good things, we think that nobody else has ever achieved exciting things in their lives. Additionally, we generally assume they will not feel happy when we share the happy news.
This is the moment when we start downplay the good news that we have just shared. Such an act is called as humble bragging. This is not good at all. If you any good things to share, just do it. Humble bragging is a sign of false modesty, and people can consider this as bullshit.
The Act of Invisible Ass Kissing
Wait! Don’t take in a negative way. What I am talking about is, sometimes we talk (praise) about the person who is not even there. We just imagine him/her as a third person like they are just great. I think we all have faced such a situation. If you have to praise someone while talking with others, then try your best to keep the praising words under one to two sentences. Just be specific.
Roaming Around The Random Points
What we speak should have a goal. While talking, we need to keep in mind that we want to entertain, persuade, or inform. There are people who tell long stories, consisting of useless details. Have you ever come across people gossiping using random trivia as an essential truth? It feels very irritating, is not it!
Don’t do such things. Just keep your story simple and straight by adding only useful information. If you think your words can offend someone, then skip it. Go for something else.
Forcing Your Advice On Someone
Don’t force your advice on people. Some people won’t like it. What if they have already tried the solution or advice that you are about to offer? “All you have to do is..” this is the statement that will make others feel that you are forcing them to follow your advice.
The best thing that you can do is just say to them, “Have you tried his solution.” Wait for a while, and let them ask you for any advice. Be modest and carry on your conversation.
We always want to show off ourselves and present ourselves smarter than others. A conversation is not a competition where you have to prove yourself best. So just keep it simple and natural. Let the process flow in its own way. And avoid the points mentioned above and don’t make yourself the conversation killer.